This is not a PUA blog. Not going to tell you how to recognize a shit test or how to pass it. I myself am not all that good at such things. But I will tell you that you need to know such things.
Mostly the red pill is the rediscovery of stuff that back in the fifties and sixties everyone knew but no one would plainly say.
Shit tests, however, represent a new and clearer understanding. The Taming of the Shrew is all about passing shit tests, so this is not a completely new discovery, but we understand shit tests better than men in the past.
Girls cannot help shit testing men that they like, any more than a man can help looking at a woman’s breasts. When acquiring a girlfriend, you will be hit by shit tests. When trying to keep your wife or girlfriend in line, you will be hit by shit tests.
A shit test is a power struggle. If the girl wins, for example getting you to apologize, making you hold her bag, making you try to please her in ways that can never please her, she loses. If you win, you win. Never apologize, never explain.
I think girls are genuinely unconscious of shit testing men. They think their supposed attitudes are sincerely held, though their attitude evaporates in a puff of smoke when you blow off their shit test. (Some shit tests, like showing up late, or going home to mother, require a bit of patience before you will see the attitude change.)
And it is hard to tell the difference between a shit test and girl really not liking you, or really not wanting to have sex with you. Except that shit tests are designed to be passed.
And shit tests are often horrifyingly harsh. It is often hard to pass a shit test, because they are really meant to be hard to pass. And if you fail a shit test it is likely to become retroactively true that the girl really did not like you, or really did not want to have sex with you. Hard to tell the difference between a thermonuclear shit test and a thermonuclear rejection. Except that one will reliably get you laid and the other one will not.
I am not going to tell you how to detect a shit test. You just have to intuit it. After a while you get a reflexive feeling of resentment “Hell, this girl is out of line. She is behaving improperly”. But you should not react to a shit test by getting hostile and angry since such an attitude assumes in advance you will fail the shit test, rather than pass it and claim your startlingly generous reward. Rather, you should assume she will be happy to be gently but firmly put in her proper place.
Not going to tell you how to pass them. I am not particularly good at passing them. They are hard to pass, particularly in a society that gives women nuclear weapons.
Consent does not make sex right, and lack of consent does not make sex wrong.
A porn star is apt to wind up feeling mighty bad about sex and her life, even though she gets formally videotaped giving explicit verbal consent to absolutely everything. Most women married by abduction or by arrangement feel pretty good about their marriage, and all the better if husband firmly insists on sex every night.
Women do not really like needing to consent to sex, let alone consent moment to moment. Which is one of the reasons you will probably strike out if you try to get a woman to give you explicit verbal consent. They much prefer “It just happened”. Women really don’t want to succeed in getting their own way on sex, because if they get their own way, that kind of implies that the person they are having sex with is weaker, needier, or lower status that they are. In the environment of evolutionary adaptation, if a woman really does not have much choice in who’s semen gets thrust into her pussy, it is probably better quality semen from the standpoint of Darwin, and more honorable and legitimate sex from the point of view of the God of the old Testament. They like to be dominated and commanded into sex. So a girl losing shit tests is her warm up to getting nailed. Just as every time a man looks at a girls boobs, he is thinking about having sex with her, every time a girl shit tests a man, she is thinking about being overcome, overpowered, dominated, and submitting sexually to that man.
I took a lady friend, and her good friend, to a resort, because I hoped for a threesome. This was extremely stupid of me, because one is never going to make a threesome with one’s lady friend’s good friend, because they will fear breaking up their friendship, but, hey, all the blood had as usual rushed from brain to my little man.
Let us call my lady friend girl 1, and her good friend who failed to have sex with me and distracted the attention of girl 1 away from me girl 2.
I met a man at the resort, and he wanted to join my group, and that was fine with me because he, being an outsider trying to join the group, was unavoidably confirming my alpha male status with every move he made, so I asked him to join us. We will call him beta man.
Eventually he very delicately sort of asked which girl was surplus to my requirements, which girl was the third wheel on the bicycle. To which I straightforwardly replied that girl number 2 was the extra, but he could not have her. He should hit on some other girl.
And, predictably, everyone acted as if I was being completely reasonable and had rightful authority over girl 2’s life. But, of course, girls do not take this kind of treatment lying down. Or rather, standing up. If you tell a girl she cannot have something, she is going to want to have it.
Predictably, after a while girl number 2 just happened to wander off so that she is as far from me as she can be while still remaining in line of sight. And I pretend to not look at that line of sight.
And Beta man disappears, takes a circuitous route while out of sight, and just happens to reappear near girl number two.
I pretend to not look, while glancing every now and then out of the corner of my eye
I know he is going get an absolutely brutal shit test, because, he, and she, are literally sneaking behind my back, and thus he is acting beta. To get enough alpha cred to nail her, he needs to pass a brutal shit test, and she is going to give him the opportunity to gain enough alpha cred to nail her.
So he chats to her, she chats to him. I cannot hear them and they are too far away to see very clearly, but suddenly he acts has though she has stabbed him with a spear, the spear is sticking all the way through him and out the other side, and he is coughing blood. He flees in shame and horror.
The poor man was severely traumatized, perhaps for life. The next day we saw him in town, and my girls called out to him to join us, and he acted like we were opening fire with a machine gun. He fled again in abject terror.
But I know girl number 2 liked him, and wanted to spend a night in his room at the resort, because she was disappointed when he fled.
Had he joined us again, he would have faced an even more brutal shit test, to give him the opportunity to gain the alpha cred he lost by being beta to my alpha, and failing the first shit test. But if he had passed – well, it was obvious to me that girl number two had plans, though I don’t know if it was obvious to her.
Maybe like Roger Elliot he spent the rest of his life creepily staring at women from a great distance waiting for them to approach him, then fleeing in terror if approached, and finally broke down, killed a bunch of people and committed suicide. Maybe he became a hairy hermit in the depths of the Amazonian rainforest. But it was obvious to me that girl number two had conscious or subconscious plans to spend the night in his room, rather than on the spare bed in mine, and was visibly disappointed when her plans fell through.
The moral of the story is: Pass your shit tests. The rewards are great. The punishment for failure is dire. And it is easier to pass your shit tests if you believe in the chain of being: Beasts < blacks < children < women < men < angels.
But the trouble is that society arms women with nuclear weapons against being hit on by upper class males, and in particular white males. This makes upper class men less sexy than lower class men, and lower class men less sexy than underclass men, and white men less sexy than black men. It is harder to pass a shit test the higher your social class.