Obviously to properly implement patriarchy requires a patriarchal state, and an official state church that can combine moral pressure with official coercion. Adultery, interfering with another man’s wife or betrothed, should be met with lethal violence which lethal violence needs to be state supported. If we can shoot burglars, should be able to shoot adulterers. Misbehaving women need to be locked up, runaway women need to be forcefully returned to fathers or husbands.
But there are quite a few groups that do a reasonable job with merely social pressure and illegal private violence. In the long run, such groups will grow until they can impose their morals and religion as state church and state violence. I do not have any statistics or concrete evidence for conservative Muslims in the US, the ones that put hijabs on their daughters and marry them off at eighteen, but anecdote is that they are reproducing at a truly amazing rate. Women are extremely vulnerable to social pressure and the threat of social exclusion. If one woman in a social group has bastard children, or has taken her children from her husband, that enormously increase the risk that another woman in that group will have bastard children, or take her children from her husband. They are particularly vulnerable, extraordinarily vulnerable, to male disapproval, from any male with even a modest claim to male on male status.
So: You make sure your womenfolk do not have anything to do with filth, sluts, or trash – and especially any women with fatherless or many fathered children. You police your wife and daughter’s social circle and tell her:
“That girl is a slut. Don’t have anything to do with her. If the others want her to be with them, you are not to be with them. I forbid it”
And you get the men in your social circle to do the same thing, so your women get multiple independent authorities telling them this. And make sure the word “Slut” is used. If you want to keep your daughter off the pole, tell her that women who are on the pole are filthy and dirty and she is to have nothing to do with them. Filth is infectious, both literally and metaphorically, and women are extremely vulnerable to metaphorical infection.
Social pressure works. Ideally all your wife’s circle should, like the social circle of Mormon women, be women who married young, focused on being a wife and mother first, and only worried about career later in life, after menopause. But failing that, should at least exclude any filth, sluts, and trash.