The reason men’s rights activist sites are so whiny is that they accept the progressive ideology of equalism, and in their own lives they treated women as equals, and of course deservedly got treated like shit. They complain that men and women are not truly treated as alike, and therefore men get the short end of the stick.
Since men and woman are not alike, if they were truly treated alike, both would get the short end of the stick. In a previous post in the comments I observed that if the government enforced contracts on women in the same way they enforce contracts on men, it would be mighty rough on women.
Men’s rights activist sites piously whine that men are not equal to women, and should be – but we tried equality in 1850. It was a complete disaster and things have steadily gotten worse since then.
A Voice for Men complained about Jenna_Myers_Karvunidis_–_Bigot, which resulted in her issuing a grovelling apology: A big succes for men’s rights What was this woman’s horrid crime? A false rape allegation? Demanding that accused rapists be treated as guilty until proven innocent?
Nope, she objected to males doing potty duty unsupervised on children they were not related to – in other words, she had a moment of sanity, making an unprincipled deviation from the equalist ideology she, and men’s rights activists, theoretically subscribe to, for the safety of her own children.
In practice, almost everyone believes in equalist ideology when it is apt to have disastrous consequences for other people, but considerably fewer people believe in equalist ideology when it is likely have disastrous consequences for themselves or their own children. Instead, they make an unprincipled exception for themselves to what they theoretically believe in for everyone else.
As I have said many times before: Show me a marriage where the housework is equally and fairly shared, rather than being divided into man’s work (taking out the garbage, unplugging the drains, mowing the lawn, and barbecuing meat) and woman’s work (almost everything else) and I will show you a marriage where the husband sleeps on the couch, and once in a week or so the wife’s lover drops in to bang her on the main bed, rough her up a bit, take her money, and leave a mess for the husband to clean up.
While he cleans up the mess the lover made, washing bodily fluids off the sheets, the husband explains that he is so enlightened and sensitive that he has an open marriage and is a polyamorist.
In my observation, in every successful marriage, if the husband theoretically believes in female emancipation, he quietly makes an unprincipled exception for himself and his wife. Men’s rights activist failed to make an unprincipled exception, and so encountered total disaster.
Women are not attracted to kitchen bitch husbands, equalist relationships, or men they are supporting due to earning more than them. Women loathe all of that, eventually, regardless of the feminist programming they have gotten that may tell them they should love being the marital dominatrix.
Further, it is not in a women’s nature to just grin and bear it, to do their duty, so faced with a situation that is not to their liking, however much they are theoretically supposed to like it, they will cuckold, they will leave, they will find something else that suits them. And they will be happy doing so.
Where are the John Waynes, Steve McQueens, Clint Eastwoods, and Charles Bronsons of today? Men no longer have role models that would enable them to command and lead their wives the way that women want to be commanded and led, thus increasingly we see people failing to make the necessary unprincipled exception in their own lives.
Women are not naturally inclined to submit, notwithstanding John Norman’s wishful thinking. But they are naturally inclined to find a man who can make them submit, overwhelming their willful and vigorous resistance. They want a husband who will lead and command, that they can honor and obey, even though they will struggle strenuously to dishonor and disobey. The John Norman novels depict women eager to obey submitting themselves to a man reluctant and diffident to command, thus he has PC males and non PC females, which is, alas, not at all the way it works in real life. Woman don’t want to honor and obey, but they want a husband who makes them honor and obey, which is to say, a husband who is absolutely not a Men’s Rights Activist.