In most species, most of the time, female choice produces lek behavior, where females choose the sexiest male, the male that is apt to have the most offspring by the most females, and therefore likely to produce sexy sons, and males do not support or protect females. In most species, females choose assholes. With most creatures, if they could speak, the word for a male who loves, supports, and protects would be “loser”. That is not true of all species all the time, nor even true of all females within some species, but that is the way to bet.
A good woman is hard to find, and needs a fair bit of monitoring, supervision and discipline. They will be bad if allowed to be bad. A traditional relationship only lasts if the male is the head of the family.
The survey of ancient and modern cultures undertaken in the book “Sex and Culture” shows that where where women had choice, the outcome was in large part a lek mating system, where children were raised primarily by their mothers, a system that produces people with the characteristic pathologies of bastards – produced ferals, wild animals on two legs, as in modern government housing projects.
In the ancestral environment, women’s mating choices were substantially dictated by brothers and fathers, and if they lacked strong and protective brothers and fathers, they had even less choice – any guy with a big stick did what he pleased to them.
Naturally brothers and fathers had a bias towards protective and supportive husbands, husbands who would be good fathers, a bias towards nice guys, since Dad did not want to wind up looking after his grandchildren. Women, to the very limited extent that they could choose, preferred lovers who were reproductively successful – sexy lovers who would produce sexy sons.
In the ancestral environment, Dad would pick out some boy on the basis of ability and willingness to support and protect, and if daughter did not like the boy’s looks, Dad would tie her to a tree branch and beat her like a rug.
When females had choice, they were in an environment where long term mating relationships were unlikely, so in such an environment they should choose the baddest boys, not the best boys. Females were rarely in a position where their mating choices could improve their prospects of long term support, so are not evolved to make such choices. That humans are a largely monogamous species is a reflection of patriarchy, not female choice. Monogamy is a system created by patriarchs, as they had the power to make it stick, and their daughters did not. Monogamy represents a conflict between the reproductive interests of father and daughter – they both have an interest in successful reproductive strategies, but the patriarch has an interest in reproductive strategies that minimizes the support the family has to give his daughter, while daughter does not. It also represents a strategy he was in a better position to actually carry out than his daughter – a patriarch could engage in reprisals against departing husbands. Being in a better position to ensure a relationship was long term, the patriarch is more inclined to take the future into account than his daughter is.
Men are naturally polygynous, women naturally hypergamous. When men have the power, the result is either something approximating monogamy, as men share the pussy more or less equally between themselves, as in traditional Christendom, or violent destructive conflict, as some men attempt to monopolize all available pussy, as in Islam. When women have the power, the result is the lek, a mating system that has the adverse consequences we observe in government housing projects, and in the various disturbingly backward or declining societies surveyed by “Sex and Culture”
Marriage and civilization are created by men, and imposed on women and children, sometimes forcibly and with a great deal of physical violence.
One famous and much used illustration of this is childbirth. As long as midwifery was an exclusively female domain, it remained primitive and dreadful, with a very high death rate among mothers and children. When men finally intruded into that field, they immediately invented the forceps. Long term thinking, such as inventing and making elaborately transformed materials into tools is not a female characteristic. Women, like children, have a much shorter time preference than men, perhaps because in the ancestral environment they were not in a position to assert property rights in tools, perhaps because of their shorter reproductive lifespan.